Q.Is having a few phobias the same as having a mental illness? I think I'm cautious - others think I'm crazy.

A. Certain phobias are listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (Volume IV). In that context, it could be considered a mental illness.

It is important to remember, if one's thinking/beliefs and accompanying behavior creates an obstacle for a person and their ability to have healthy interactions in society, it usually is a problem which requires treatment by a trained professional.

On the other hand, fear plays an important role in protecting us from hazardous situations.

Q. I have heard that doing things like crosswords or word puzzles will keep your mind active and ward off things like Alzheimer's.

Is there any truth to this? Are there other things you can do?

A. Absolutely! The phrase "use it or lose it", clearly applies in helping prevent Alzheimer's disease.

In addition to crossword puzzles, board games (I.E. chess, checkers, and scrabble), dancing lessons and playing a musical instrument are all activities to keep the brain busy and healthy.

Additionally, quitting smoking is also a major contributor in helping prevent this illness.

Q. I never knew my wife was such a neat freak - probably because I was working and not home to see her craziness. But it is now making me nuts.

I think she is obsessed with neatness she thinks I am a slob. Who has to change?

A. I would say both.

This sounds like a period of reintroduction and readjustment for you two, and it may take significant effort by both parties to regain your comfort and compatibility levels again.

Actively communicate and attempt to reach an acceptable compromise on this issue.

Be patient and pay attention to what you have agreed upon. This will not fix itself overnight.